It’s ridiculous. The list of blogs I read, that is.
Sometimes, when I just blog-hop around, subsequently my blogroll starts growing. It doesn’t mean that these blogs will remain on my blogroll forever, but at least until I have figured out if I go back often enough to justify it.
There are two categories of blogs on my blogroll:
– the blogs that I read and whose owners read my blog in return, and
– the blogs that I read.
Simple, right? I am sure your blogroll consists of the same mix of blogs.
Sometimes though, I feel a little “left out” of the blogger community. I only get an average of maybe 5-10 comments per post (on a good day even 15!), and I pretty much know most of my readers, but I know that there are still more people that read (I can read my stats!). Why don’t people comment? Is it that they only click on your blog once, accidentally, and never come back? (I am sure that’s true for some.) Or is it that they have nothing to say in response to your posts? Does it mean you’re a ‘bad blogger’?
On the other hand, what if your blog attracts a few tens, if not hundreds of commentators? (How the hell did you manage to get that many readers anyways?)
Do you want to find out who those people are? Do you click over to their blogs and read their stories? Or do you feel rather indifferent about a large percentage of those people? I can imagine, if you have a few tens of readers, it’s difficult to keep track of all of them.
However, I do want to know who the people are that find and read my blog.
I do want to know how they found me (ah, hold it right there for a a minute! I think that explains it! I don’t advertise my blog, hence the small number of commentators, I suppose) and why they keep coming back. In most cases, if they have a blog themselves, I do click over there to read more about them.
I am aware that not every “blog acquaintance” turns into a mutual thing.
Still, sometimes it bugs me if I leave comment after comment, trying to connect to someone who successfully ignores me. I am frustrated and tempted to quit reading, but then I realize that I love reading the blog nonetheless and that sometimes it’s obviously doomed to be a one-sided thing.
I do understand that I don’t have any right to expect anything in return, because after all, nobody asked me to come and read their blog, let alone promised anything that would resemble some sort of friendship. I suppose my comment is appreciated on some level, because everybody writes a public blog to receive some feedback, no? But it still feels like a dead-end street sometimes. It’s just nice to get some sort of feedback every once in a while (even when it’s a two sentence-email. Hi, you know who you are! ;)), knowing that your comments have been read and appreciated. It makes you feel connected to this person and you remember why you blog and why you comment on other people’s blogs.
Make no mistake, I’ve made some incredible friends over the Internet. Close friends. It constantly amazes me how close you can feel to a person that you haven’t even met, just by getting to know someone through their writing. I know, a blog only allows you a glimpse into someone’s life and personality, but the connection can be still pretty amazing.
So, what do you blog for? Just for you? For your friends? For strangers? Is your goal to attract as many readers as possible, or would you rather cut back on the comment count and get to know every one of your readers?