This post is inspired by Sizzle because she got me thinking about something that has been on my mind a bit lately: Is my way of thinking really so completely different from other people’s thinking?
Is thereÂ something that we call “common sense” or are people’s rules and values and ways of thinkingÂ always slightly different from our own?
It always takes me quite by surprise when people – especially people to whom I am somewhat close – do things that I would never do in a million years or simply do or say things thatÂ leave me completely dumbfoundedÂ (and I could easily come up with 5 examples on each hand).Â
Some things don’t bother me that much, even though they might raise my eyebrow for a second. Other things though leave me inwardly dumbstruck.
I am quite aware that nobody has to obey to the rules that I have made up in my perfect little head, but you’d think that there is some common ground with everyone. Apparently, there is not.
I constantly find myself questioning my own values and personal rules in the light of other’s reckless, unthoughtful and inconsiderate behavior.
I am not putting myself on a pedestal here, as I am sure I have done things that befuddled or offended people – knowingly and unknowingly. You can’t please everybody all the time.
In general though, I do consider myself thoughtful and considerate of others.
I am also almost alwaysÂ willing to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I am just wondering if some peopleÂ deliberately operate completely without “common sense”,Â right along the lines ofÂ ‘As long as I play dumb, nobody can really expect anything from me’ – which, in itself, seems to make the particular person almost clever.
I mean, it sounds prettyÂ clever, right?
As long as they play dumb, nobody can expect them to be considerate or thoughtful and therefore you can’t possibly be mad at them, because they didn’t know –Â all the while they’re questioning things that seem quite obvious, ignoring things that have been saidÂ in orderÂ to be able to pretend that they had no idea about it.
People, there is a line to be drawn somewhere.
And frankly, I am not quite sure if I can just “let it go”. In my humble opinion, it takes a lot of presumptuousness to behave like that. I just have a hard time accepting that some people might actually be completely unreflecting of what they say and do and their impact on others.
I think the hardest and most unsatisfyingÂ part for me is that I am trying to make sense ofÂ something, where no sense is to be made. Letting go might be the onlyÂ option if I don’t wantÂ certain peopleÂ to drive meÂ completely nuts.
ButÂ how about, I treat you the wayÂ you treat me next time?Â
How about that?
Maybe that will raise some self-awareness.
…still excited about the outcome of the election yesterday.
It is amazing that the majority of people came through and elected Barack Obama president of the United States.
I am totally excited about his landslide victory over John McCain. Who would have thought that the western part of the country didn’t even have a stake in this election? That the decision fell almost before the last polling places closed in California?
Even though this is technically not “my” country (well, you know that is not true, it really has become my country as well, but you know what I mean), I have never been so excited about an election. I had been following the primaries right from the start and was very enthusiastic about some of the issues.
Whenever I visited home in the past, I felt I had to “defend” America… not against my family, but against random people who would talk negatively about the US andÂ Bush (and I did, too!) and who could not understand what I liked about living here. I always felt that I had to stand up for the US, even though I agreed withÂ many of the comments that were made about it abroad.
From now on, I don’t think I have to be defensive anymore, because Germany is very excitedÂ about the newÂ president! This will be not only great for America, but also great for the world!
However, as excited as I am seeing Barack Obama and his family move into the White House, I am also deeply disappointed about the outcome of some of the propositions that were voted on here in CA.
Proposition 8 – the ban on gay marriage – passed! It passed!
I am at a loss of words.
How can the Californians possibly elect Barack Obama for president and then vote for Proposition 8 that infringes on the civil rights of gay people. It’s outrageous. I have no words for it.
How can they have people vote to change the California Constitution with an amendement to eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry based on their personal beliefs ?
I think it’s simply unfair.
In some ways, we have still a long way to go.
As you know,Â vacation days in the US are scarce.
It’s the middle of July and I have not taken one single day off this year.
Granted, I mostly have three-day-weekends and that is really nice, but a) I’ve still been working 40+ hours per week and b) I have worked 52 hours overtime so far. I really think I deserve a week off to go home and visit my sister and her babybelly :)
I finally managed to ask my boss for the go-ahead to take a week off, but the catch is:
Flights are incredibly expensive right now.
I cant believe that I am looking at flights that are almost twice as much as what I paid for my flight back home last Christmas! It’s insane… and really unfair.
I know some of you feel the same way. Here we are, thousands of miles away from our families and flights are becoming more and more unaffordable. Is it too much to ask to be able to go home to our families at least once a year without paying a fortune?
Considering that I am also planning to go back to Germany with J for Christmas, I really have to be smart about this. I am not willing to pay over $1000 per flight [yeah, but who’s asking me, right?!].
If you have any suggestions for travel websites or come across a good deal – please pass it on! Thanks!
I don’t know why, but sometimes, when a famous person dies, it just freakin’ bothers me. George Carlin, my favorite American comedian, died on Sunday.Â He died way too young.Â He was only 71 years old.
You might be laughing right now. But seriously. It just bugs me whenÂ people, who make a difference, die before they are at least 100 years old or something [and I didn’t even get the chance to see him perform].
George Carlin was hilarious, provoking and daring. He didn’t mince matters.
I could link you to hundreds of youtube videos right now so you could see for yourself. [Just go and type in his name and videos will pop up. Take the time toÂ watch and listen – but heads up, he uses offensive language sometimes – don’t you come back here and complain.]
As a foreigner, understanding and appreciating humorÂ in a foreign languageÂ can beÂ a real challenge, but even if you’re not American and English isn’t your first language, I am sure you’ll get a kick out of what George Carlin had to say.
He’ll be missed. Damn, I miss him already.
I know. Sacramento lies in the Central Valley and it gets hot in the summer. Real hot. I am aware of that. But this week is crazy. It’s not even summer yet!
Everything up to 85Â°F is manageable. I can handle that. But almost 100Â°F in the middle of May? Seriously – this is WAY out there. Those are temperatures for July/August – not May. We’re supposed to adjust to the heat slowly. If we have 100Â°F in May, how hot will it be in July?
The weather has been really roller-coaster-like lately. I definitely won’t complain about a nice 70-75Â°F-summer night where you can sit outside and chat away, but it has to cool down at some point before the next morning. Everything else is insane. Especially when it’s only May. [/rant]
You get my drift. Going back to Southern California sounds like a really good idea right now. A nice steady 73Â°F/23Â°C would be just fabulous.
I know there are many more important things going on in the world to bitch and moan about right now, but this would honestly be way too depressing. We’ve been following the news about the cyclone in Myanmar and the China earthquake quite a bit at the office [naturally] and all I can say is: I am equally fascinated by nature’s forces as well as petrified by all the destruction and loss of lives. The numbers are just incomprehensible. Someone is really angry. It feels like Mother Earth is carrying out a natural mission against overpopulating or something.
P.S. Happy Birthday, Danny Wood :)
Since I worked last Friday, the weekend was fairly short. [In case you want to yell at me for complaining about NOT having a three-day-weekend this time, I’d like to remind you that I work 10+ hours the other days of the week, thank you very much].
J and I wanted to watch a movie Friday night, but that plan miserably failed when I fell asleep around 9 p.m. I am just tired by the end of the week.
Saturday, I ran some errands in the morning and then we watched the clouds move in and the rain to start falling. J couldn’t have been happier and encouraged me to take a walk with him. Of course, we were soaking wet when we returned, but happy.
It’s funny how there is nobody out when it’s raining. I literally mean, nobody [except for the odd person with a dog, of course].
Sunday was a little lighter – rainwise – and after spending the morning on the phone with people from overseas [aka family and friends] and cleaning up our place, I took J out for a well-derserved dinner at CrÃªpeville. Thank God we have one in town here as well :) I had the Basil CrÃªpe again [this time I took a photo to prove it] and J had the Savory CrÃªpe with prawns. Delicious!
We watched some more X-files after we got home and that was it for the weekend.
Oh, one more thing I have to mention because it was so horrible and to explain the title of this post:
You know, I really do enjoy good movies. I also get into the occasional TV show and admit it, who doesn’t like to have an hour each week in which to escape to a –
more or less- realistic story about someone else’s life?
Good, so we’re on the same page.
I think I also can kind of understand how some people – no offense – can get totally hooked on reality TV. Some of the shows are or can be hilarious [Jackass] and entertaining.
But this weekend I came across the possibly worst TV show ever. And I mean, ever ever.
Rock of Love with Bret Michaels.
I don’t even know where to start, so much is wrong with this show.
Well, let’s start with the concept of it: 20
sometimes not so beautiful sometimes not so young women sign up to make total idiots of themselves while competing for Bret Michaels’ heart [who by the way is the biggest turn-off that I’ve ever seen].
If this alone is not sexist, I don’t know what is.
But no, those women have no dignity left whatsoever and think it’s totally “normal” to compete with 19 other scarcely dressed females for
prince charming’s this guy’s favor.
He, however, obviously just enjoys making out with every single one of them, preferrably in front of the other ones, just to decide at the end of each week that one of them has to leave the mansion and can’t “rock his world” anymore.
Biggest BS that I have ever watched on TV. Seriously.
Seriously. The cleaning ladies in my office have quite some balls. I think I can quite surely assume that they’ve been the origin of chocolate disappearing from my office.
My co-worker gave me a belated Christmas present when I returned to the office after New Year’s: a picture frame and some Lindt Lindor Truffels [filled chocolate]. Since the picture frame was intended to stay on my desk, I didn’t take the gifts home and kept the chocolate in the office for extreme cases of regularly occuring sugar lows ;)
I know, chocolate sitting on your desk, an arm’s length away from you is pretty darn tempting, but I swear I only had two or three pieces of the chocolate since I received it.
Yesterday, I realized though that the bag was virtually e.m.p.t.y.
There were three pieces of chocolate left.
Three pieces! Out of… how many do you think fit into a 8.5 oz. bag? 20?
The label says there were about 21 pieces. Well, 21 minus the 3 pieces I ate, there should be 18 left.
Yes,Â mental arithmetic. I am just good at it! :)
Anyways, there were three pieces last night.
I am the last one to leave the office, which means my co-workers, who I wouldn’t suspect to “sneak” chocolate from me anyway, couldn’t haveÂ taken it. Also, besides my boss, I am the first one in the office in the mornings and when I came in today there was only ONE piece of chocolate in the bagÂ left.
Can you freakin’ believe this?
Who the hell is stealing my chocolate?
I am going to leave a note on the bag tonight:
Dear secret chocolate eater,
please replace the empty bag with a full one.
I like to share, but this is not sharing. This is rude.
I assume most of you read or heard the news yesterday.Â Heath Ledger is dead.
That somehow moved me deeply.
I am not even a big fan of his, but I reallyÂ ADORED his last movie “Brokeback Mountain” and when I, totally unexpectedly, learned of his death yesterday, I couln’t help but think how fragile life is. It somehow bothers me if someone dies so young.
As of now, according to the latest news,Â it wasn’t even suicide, but rather an accidental death caused by stress-inducedÂ self-medicating with sleeping pills.
It really is a loss for the acting world. I think he could have become an icon. Or maybe that is what he’ll be now anyways.