This post is inspired by Sizzle because she got me thinking about something that has been on my mind a bit lately: Is my way of thinking really so completely different from other people’s thinking?
Is thereÂ something that we call “common sense” or are people’s rules and values and ways of thinkingÂ always slightly different from our own?
It always takes me quite by surprise when people – especially people to whom I am somewhat close – do things that I would never do in a million years or simply do or say things thatÂ leave me completely dumbfoundedÂ (and I could easily come up with 5 examples on each hand).Â
Some things don’t bother me that much, even though they might raise my eyebrow for a second. Other things though leave me inwardly dumbstruck.
I am quite aware that nobody has to obey to the rules that I have made up in my perfect little head, but you’d think that there is some common ground with everyone. Apparently, there is not.
I constantly find myself questioning my own values and personal rules in the light of other’s reckless, unthoughtful and inconsiderate behavior.
I am not putting myself on a pedestal here, as I am sure I have done things that befuddled or offended people – knowingly and unknowingly. You can’t please everybody all the time.
In general though, I do consider myself thoughtful and considerate of others.
I am also almost alwaysÂ willing to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes I am just wondering if some peopleÂ deliberately operate completely without “common sense”,Â right along the lines ofÂ ‘As long as I play dumb, nobody can really expect anything from me’ – which, in itself, seems to make the particular person almost clever.
I mean, it sounds prettyÂ clever, right?
As long as they play dumb, nobody can expect them to be considerate or thoughtful and therefore you can’t possibly be mad at them, because they didn’t know –Â all the while they’re questioning things that seem quite obvious, ignoring things that have been saidÂ in orderÂ to be able to pretend that they had no idea about it.
People, there is a line to be drawn somewhere.
And frankly, I am not quite sure if I can just “let it go”. In my humble opinion, it takes a lot of presumptuousness to behave like that. I just have a hard time accepting that some people might actually be completely unreflecting of what they say and do and their impact on others.
I think the hardest and most unsatisfyingÂ part for me is that I am trying to make sense ofÂ something, where no sense is to be made. Letting go might be the onlyÂ option if I don’t wantÂ certain peopleÂ to drive meÂ completely nuts.
ButÂ how about, I treat you the wayÂ you treat me next time?Â
How about that?
Maybe that will raise some self-awareness.