May Link Love

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This is powerful. If you only click on one of my links today, make it this one: A different kind of love letter. Does your loved one have all this critical information?

Grilled balsamic steak with tomatoes and arugula. I made this for dinner the other day and it was delicious. Perfect for summer!

The three kinds of grief nobody talks about. I definitely feel all of those every once in a while and it’s not necessarily fun.

We are the generation that doesn’t want relationships. While I don’t agree with the article in general, I thought it was brilliantly written.

“It is something of a cliché among runners, how the activity never fails to clear your head,” but I guess it’s not complete bogus. So there.  How Neuroscientists Explain the Mind-Clearing Magic of Running.

This, sadly, is so true. Very good article all around. You should read it. Why Americans ignore the role of luck in everything.  “Most successful people worked very hard to get there, and indeed are quite talented. But merit and hard work aren’t enough — because there are so many people who are smart and hardworking, but only so many “slots” for the best jobs, for most successful artistic endeavors, and so on, luck invariably plays an important role. […] this is a very important blind spot that can explain a great deal about how America is organized — specifically, the country’s somewhat lackadaisical approach to tackling inequality and, relatedly, to offering residents the sorts of government-sponsored social supports so common in the rest of the wealthy world. Because people have such an unbalanced view of the luck-versus-skill equation, they fail to understand that there is good reason to have programs that can help redress some of the imbalances that arise in such a luck-oriented world.“

What would happen if we just gave people money? A fascinating read. Thoughts?

Compliments are free. Why not give them out more often?

In a day and age where people are told to “chase their dreams” and “pursue their passions as a career”,  this resonated with me: Just so you know, you don’t have to be passionate about your job. I love my job, but it’s not my passion. What if your passion doesn’t lend itself to be a profitable career? It’s totally ok to work a 9-5 and pursue your passion(s) on your own time.

The decline of play and rise in children’s mental disorders. Something to contemplate. Maybe sometimes less (parental supervision/helicopter-parenting/daily structure) is more?

Half of your friends probably don’t think of you as a friend.That’s depressing. Maybe we should define the word “friend” first?

Why modern dating makes me want to punch myself in the throat. If this is a true depiction of the dating game today, I am really glad I “dated” (I wouldn’t even describe it as that)  before the age of smartphones and social media.

How Evernote can make you more creative. I haven’t used Evernote this way, but I love the desktop version/app and use it frequently to store recipes, ideas, craft patterns, etc. If you feel overwhelmed by Evernote, maybe this will help you get the hang of its usefulness.

How to get unstuck in life by simply making a next move — any next move.

I am “pocketing” way to many recipes (if that’s even possible). Here’s one more: Classic croque madame. Is it brunch time yet?

  1. Oh the first link! So important. We want to do this forever now and never yet had “time” to sit down and do it. Its a good reminder. My grandparents were very specific on what they left behind and what they decided before they were gone. They even had the addresses for the obituary prepared. Ever since then I wanted to prepare a few things myself. I should schedule a day to do so. Thanks for the reminder San.

    1. I am glad you found the link as useful as I did :)

  2. That love letter article raises a very good point. They kind of briefly touched on that on a recent episode of Happier, although sort of tangentially, but it’s definitely a good thing to keep in mind as it’s hard enough to deal with the loss of a loved one when you also have to figure out how to access accounts, what all accounts that person has, etc, etc.

    I really miss the mind-clearing magic of running!! Or being active, period!

    1. I really hope you can get back to running soon. I know how much you miss it.

  3. My grandparents are slowly passing on all of the important stuff onto my mom and her siblings as they age and realize they’re getting too old to manage things (my grandpa has Alzheimer’s and was calling the banks/financial institutions and asking the same questions over and over). It makes me suddenly aware of how I should probably know things like this for my own parents, or my boyfriend, or even my brother.

    The “magic” mind-clearing part of running makes me want to pursue it! But I can never get into the groove of it to reach that point.

    1. I thought that I would never get into the groove of running (I tried so many times), but something switched… it’s possible. Keep trying!

  4. I actually do the first one with Matt! He has yet to write his info down, but that’s because he forgets to do a lot of stuff and says “oh yeah I’ll get to it.” Grrrrr :/ But I take care of most of our bills, so I’ve written the majority of things down for him. I’ll be doing the same to prepare for when I give birth because who knows what will happen then…

    I’m definitely not passionate about my job. I do it for the paycheck and benefits and that’s about it. If it starts to be a pain and stressful on a daily basis, then I start searching for a new job and go elsewhere because being stressed at work is just not worth it at all. In fact I’ve gotten to a point in life where I know I’m not making a difference what’s so ever, don’t really care much, and again just do it for the paycheck so we can pay our mortgage and for food (and hopefully soon the baby). I know that sounds cold and some might take it as being awful, but hey, that’s my reality! I’m totally ok with it!

    1. I love how honest you are about your job. I think as long as you don’t completely hate what you do, it’s totally fine to just have a “job”, not a passion career ;)

  5. Oh wow, these are awesome – I am off to read! Thank you! Hugs xxx

    1. You’re welcome ;)

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