Yesterday was J’s and my anniversary. I can’t believe we’ve been married for 6 years. Sometimes, it feels like we just got married yesterday, in many ways it seems much, much longer than 6 years. We took a little day trip to wine country (hooray! More on that later!) and just enjoyed some quality time together.
There is a German saying that pretty much sums up life (in general):
Erstens kommt es anders und zweitens als man denkt.
(a. you never know, and b. how things turn out.)
So very true.
If there is one thing that you can’t really predict for the future, it is what’s going to happen after you say “I do”. Of course, you have dreams and aspirations, you make plans and set goals, but in the end, regardless how diligently you plot and plan, there are often situations that are outside of your control and you have to learn to just try and hit the curveballs that might be thrown your way. J and I definitely had our fair share of curveballs, but they taught us a lot for sure.
We learned that…
+ communication is key.
+ even though I am a planner at heart, I can’t plan everything.
+ J is a night owl, I am a morning person.
+ through thick and thin can really mean through thick and thin.
+ I will never understand why guys have to pee standing up.
+ J will never understand my need to take pictures of ALL THE THINGS (but at least he doesn’t care too much and let’s me).
+ Baseball > Football.
+ we both love salty snacks > sweet snacks.
+ Chocolate Chip ice-cream is still pretty awesome.
+ J doesn’t believe in cards/gifts for special occasions, but prefers to generously give on ordinary days, and that
+ I still think it’s very important to send cards and gifts for special occasions. (Double win?)
+ marriage is not always a picnic-in-the-park, but still worth every effort.
+ we can not watch (political) news without pausing every 5 minutes and discussing it. Luckily, we’re pretty much on the same page on all issues, so it doesn’t compromise our relationship.
+ the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
+ you have to stick together when shit hits the fan.
+ cooking > eating out (most days).
+ opposites attract. (He’s always hot, I am always cold.)
+ we both like the water (J likes the ocean, I like the snow. Well, I like the ocean, too.)
+ we agree on (most) music.
+ I’m the tech person of the two of us.
+ nothing is more important than being able to be ridiculously silly around each other.